As women we wear many hats and juggle many balls (gosh sounds like a circus act), we put pressure on ourselves constantly and half the time don’t get to see what an incredible job we are doing at life. As a circus performer myself (juggling and hat changing) I know that amongst the chaos it’s very hard to be kind to ourselves and cut some slack. I don’t know about you, but I lay in bed at night scanning through the day hating myself for overreacting the small things, wondering if smacking Cooper for whatever reason will make him grow up to hate me, wondering if my husband feels like he married a dud because of how emotional I can be at times.
We as women are so depended on, from our kids, our partners, family, friends, co-workers. We can please everybody, just not at the same time….and gosh that’s frustrating. I even spend my days reminiscing on crap from when I was a teenager if I didn’t lie about going to a “sleepover” when really I was at Joe Bloes party up the road if that was the stress that gave Mum cancer? This is how crappy I, and I’m sure a lot of women, treat ourselves. We blame ourselves when things go pear shaped. But the reality is, we need to look after ourselves. We need to care for ourselves. Not just give ourselves a pat on the back every now and then, I mean we need to practise self care on the DAILY. We need to care for our mind (mental), our body (physical) and our soul (emotional), as hippy as that sounds.
it is not your job to be everything to everyone.
So, is there a one size fits all approach to self care? Of course not. We are all trying to squeeze our adult life in the few hours in the day when our kids are asleep, but please squeeze a little more, plan a little more, so that you can put YOU first, so that you can be the best version of you. This is my 2018 goal, on the hard days to practise self care and in the shit circumstances to give myself some love. Whether it’s going to the gym when the kids go to bed so I can work off any pent up anxiety or so I’m not snappy when my husband gets home. It’s not about being selfish, it’s about putting your hand up and saying “me too”.
you owe yourself the love that you give so freely to other people.
To give you some inspiration, I’ve been honoured to share with you some REAL self care inspiration of women who’ve had to put themselves first in difficult situations. Keep your eyes peeled tonight for my interview with a role model, an inspiration and a dear friend as well as some more self care tips to consider filling your cup with.